Is it Live or Is it Memorex?

During the late 70's and early 80's, there was a commercial campaign for a video tape that was so clear, you couldn't tell the difference. During that time, this was revolutionary. For the first time, a recording didn't have all kinds of visual blemishes.

In 2025, this is definitely not an issue. But what is an issue is what we are being told is real. We're being told that our society is going down the drain. That our future is in the hands of people that eat tide pods. That everyone believes there are 497 genders... except you. That all white people are racists. All black people cause problems. All cops are crooked. All pastors want their secretaries more than their wives. All teachers sleep with their students. All music stars are jerks. All men talk down to women. Here's the reality... that's not even close to the truth. Not even in the zip code.

As I live my life with the people I do life with, I find a few things. First, they are various races, one of two genders, different ages, and don't eat tide pods. In general, they're good people. You, those that are reading this, are good people. I encounter cops that are changing tires on the side of the road. Pastors that show up to a hospital at 2am to be there as comfort for the family. Teachers that buy supplies for children that can't afford them- when they, themselves, don't make much money at all. Music stars being extremely generous. Men that open doors for women and protect them on a daily basis. Dads that go out of their way to be good dads in the face of a fatherless society. That's what I see!

So why do we hear so much about the extreme minority? Well, you already know the answer. Media. It's their job to present news that isn't everyday, ordinary news. So the mass majority of the country that believes there are two genders, just isn't news. We all know that actual, literal journalism is almost completely dead in our country. Everything has an angle. The money that supports these media outlets have agendas, opinions that they want to pass off as facts.

One of the reasons this is possible is because of our need for drama. If I post a positive story on a "Hip" page on FB, I'll get 10 likes. If say something negative, controversial, trolling, I'll get 10,000 likes. It's just where we are. We are all drawn to problem solving. So here's some REAL news for you. Just in recent past, the following happened:

*My daughter, who was 17 at the time and never wanted to be at my house, said she wasn't ever comfortable there. One night she asked if she could spend the night. That is a YUGE development. She is now, and has been, extremely comfortable here. I had missed my daughter and was hurting because of the proverbial distance. This small thing felt amazing. It renewed my faith in my parenting. I really wasn't sure if what I was doing was right. Apparently it worked.

*My 18 yr old bonus son called me to make sure I hadn't left to take care of something for him. Then told me he was headed home to take care of it himself. Again, doesn't sound like a big deal, but thinking of others first hasn't been his strong suit. This was a very good, grown up move for him. I can't take any credit for that. I didn't raise him. His mother and father can look at this and say, "It paid off".

*Same 17 yr old daughter and bonus 16 yr old daughter attend a Shawn Mendes concert. They get to their nose-bleed seats. My 17 yr old says "I'm afraid of heights." A gentleman says, "I tell you what, here are two tickets for front row. I work with Shawn and my job is to find good people like you who were headed to the back row to be in the front row." Shawn Mendes will never get public credit for that. It won't be in the news because it's GOOD news. I don't know him personally, but the fact is, that's very generous and kind.

*I saw a police officer pull over in the rain, get out and change a tire of a mother's car with her kids inside.

*I saw a woman pay for the coffee of a woman behind her.

*I saw someone pay for the fast food of the car behind them in the drive-thru.

*Also saw someone pay for a stranger's gas.

*I paid for a meal at a restaurant for a dad that made me smile. A young man with a wife, daughter and a newborn. This very young man chose to take his proper role as father and husband. I left him a message, "we need more dads like you in this world."

*After some storms in our neighborhood, our neighbor came over at 10pm, in the rain and cut some trees that had fallen in our driveway so our driveway wouldn't be blocked the next morning.

*Two young black men, maybe teens, saw an elderly white woman struggling to get across the street, so they stopped traffic and helped.

*A few years back there were hurricanes that wreaked havoc on Panama City, FL, my grandmother was one of the more notable victims. The community came together, particularly the young people, and repaired her home and yard. It made the news in PC, FL (Click on "Panama City" to see the story).

THIS! ... This is what our society REALLY is. This is what the majority of the people in our country are like. This is what our future really looks like. This is what young people are really like. Not the loud, whiny, extreme minority that just keeps shouting until someone gives them a pacifier. Not what you see on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter. Not what the so-called news outlets report. Yes, there are exceptions. But those exceptions don't represent the majority. Our country, our society is made up of MOSTLY people that are kind, generous, sweet, funny, and overall good people. Don't be overwhelmed by the extreme news. Most of those stories are isolated incidents. We're going to leave a pretty good country to our children and Keith Richards.

Craig Groeschel once said,

"Show me your friends and I'll show you your future."

Fix what you have to fix. Stop wasting energy on the negative information and negative people in your life. Make your life look like those stories above. Sometimes we look at the fabricated as if it's the genuine. We get stuck staring at the "Memorex"- the image that isn't what's really going on. Stick to the "Live"- the image of what is really happening around you. If your world doesn't look like this, change the direction. The first thing you can do is start every single day with GRATITUDE. From there, you'll see an immediate difference. So when you look at your life, is it Live... or is it Memorex?

Stay Classy GP!

Grainger